3 Keys to The Kingdom of Heaven That Will Heal Your Life and Relationships
And how to apply them to your life
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It’s a big topic we are going to get into today!
Are you ready?
I get excited when God reveals new things to me regarding healing.
It feels like I’ve been given keys to the kingdom of heaven!
And I can’t wait to share it with you my brothers and sisters in Christ.
Life is hard, isn’t it?
It’s full of pain and heartache.
And frankly, I don’t like feeling that way, so I do all I can to learn how to be free from pain and suffering.
But of course, we can’t avoid it sometimes.
So if we get hurt, we need a way to heal the hurt. Otherwise, we either get depressed or become hard-hearted.
I decided a long time ago that I would not become a hard-hearted person. I had seen enough of them and knew I did not want to be like that.
I’m sure you’re the same!
So, what happens when we get hurt?
If we haven’t learned how to forgive and let go then the hurt gets lodged in us as a wound.
Eventually, we forget about the wound, but the wound of unforgiveness starts to drive our lives and decisions.
Why?
Because inside the wound is all the pain, sadness, grief, anger, disappointment, and resentment.
If we do not let go of these heavy emotions, we will either get depressed or become angry, hostile, or bitter.
We simply won’t be able to love properly because all these blocks are keeping us stuck.
I know it’s hard to get all these issues resolved because the hurts can go back as far as childhood.
If we let these toxic energies build up in us, they will inevitably show up in other ways, such as physical illnesses, unhealthy relationships, financial issues, mental health issues such as anxiety, fear, depression, and other more serious mental illnesses.
So where do we begin?
The first step is to become aware of what’s going on in you.
What’s happening in your life?
As the non-Christian healers say,
“What are you manifesting in your life?”
That means, what sort of results have shown up in your life?
For example, did you get sick? Did you have a painful marriage that ended in divorce?
What about your work? Are you enjoying it? Do you feel satisfied? Fulfilled?
What’s your mood like?
Do you get triggered easily?
Start by taking an inventory of your life. Write it all down and then pray about it.
The Holy Spirit will reveal one thing at a time and when He does, you must act on it immediately. This is what it means to trust God.
I’ll give you an example from my own life.
During the Christmas season, I spent a lot of time in prayer. I like to use Christmas as a time of renewal. I go looking for areas to heal.
But, sometimes I wish I didn’t because God is serious about this stuff, and will show us what we need to let go of - which can be hard!
I was shown a relationship in my 20s that caused me a lot of pain. It was a toxic relationship as the guy was narcissistic and very hostile towards me.
I did some work on that in the early years. I had dealt with it—or so I thought!
But when the light of God goes into these dark places in our soul, He wants us to get it out. We have to uproot the pain and release it.
That relationship came to my mind and I knew God was pointing to it.
It was hard because I didn’t know what I was going to do about it. I thought it was just a memory and it would go again.
But no, God wasn’t going to let me away with it this time.
I had to deal with it and believe me, there was a lot more pain in that wound than I had expected.
I have forgiven that man, I have forgiven myself and I have asked God for forgiveness. So, slowly I am moving on from it.
Here are some steps I followed that I now call keys to the kingdom..
Key # 1 - Love
The greatest commandment Jesus himself gave us was to love.
Love God. Love ourselves. Love others.
It’s that simple, and from this place of LOVE, all healing begins.
Love – The Greatest Commandment
One of the Pharisees, an expert in the law, tested Jesus with a question:
“Teacher, which commandment is the greatest in the Law?” Jesus declared, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. “This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.” All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”
Key # 2 - Forgive
In the Parable of the Unmerciful Servant, Peter asked Jesus about forgiveness..
Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”
Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.”
—Matthew 18:21-22
Forgive 70 x 7
This means it takes time to forgive someone who hurt you badly. Like with me and my ex from years ago.
I had forgiven him quite a few times over the years, but because I am more healed, strong, and ready now, the more painful memory came up in me.
It had been lodged in my subconscious mind and only came up when I was in a season of prayer.
I had been preparing my heart at Advent for the coming of the Lord on Christmas Day. That means going through a purification process, to unclog any old emotions in me.
I had no idea what needed to be purified and you won’t either when you do this.
We must humbly come to God asking for healing and acknowledging that we don’t even know what we need healing from.
It could be generational healing, old patterns from our families or cultures. It could be some entity that attached itself to us from a relationship not of God. For example, sex outside of marriage will have unhealthy soul ties.
So, we will have to sever those ties through prayer.
Forgiveness is not just a nice idea that you can choose if you feel like it.
As born-again believers, we are commanded to forgive and God is not going to be pleased if you do not forgive.
As believers, if we do not forgive others, God will not forgive us. It is serious to have an unforgiving spirit, for when we hold resentment in our hearts, it hinders our relationship with The Lord.
“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
— Matthew 6:14-15
Believers must learn to forgive. God hates unforgiveness and we have no reason to justify it. Yes, it is difficult and painful to forgive, but we must do it.
We are called to purify our hearts and live in holiness.
“Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”
—Ephesians 4:31-32
Further on in the Parable of the Unmerciful Servant, Jesus explained how a servant was unable to pay what he owed to the King and so begged the King to give him more time. The King was moved with compassion and decided to show him mercy by forgiving the large debt.
That servant then went out and found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii; and he laid hands on him and took him by the throat, saying, ‘Pay me what you owe!’ The servant begged for mercy, but he threw him in prison till he could pay the debt.
Later when the King heard about this he was furious with him for not showing mercy to his servant, and so punished him severely.
“Then his master, after he had called him, said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me. Should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?’ And his master was angry and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him.
“So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.” Matthew 18.
So, don’t be deceived, there are consequences to unforgiveness.
Key # 3 - Trust
Healing from past hurts is a painful process to go through and many don’t ever get there because they push the pain down through various addictions, like work, alcohol, love (co-dependency), sex, gambling, compulsive spending, food addiction, etc.
They soothe their emotional pain through substances or compulsive activities.
All these addictions serve the same purpose - to avoid feeling the pain.
But the problem is, the pain remains and it drives our lives.
That pain gets converted into a memory and gets stuck in our subconscious mind. If we do not get that memory out of the subconscious and into our conscious awareness, it can’t be healed.
Instead, it will manifest in our lives as a problem.
So, the gateway into the subconscious mind is to be fully responsible for all that goes on in our physical world.
For example, if angry people are showing up in my life, then I am carrying anger also. We are giving off the energy of our pain all the time.
So, we need to ask for God’s Divine intervention.
We can’t unlock this without God’s help.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.”
We acknowledge that we cannot let go by ourselves and do not even know what it is we are letting go of. It could be so much more than the hurt you are looking at right now.
There can be generational demons, it could be traumatic childhood experiences that we have forgotten or were too young to have words for, or it could be unprocessed grief.
But, we don’t have to know.
We only have to trust the Holy Spirit that these painful wounds will be taken up to the Lord to be burned up in His consuming fire. Your painful memories or wounds will be transmuted into pure divine love and light.
Application of the 3 Keys
Invite the divine Light of Christ to fill your soul with pure love.
Pray to the Holy Spirit.
Your intention is to clear out all the junk from your subconscious mind that needs to be purified.
Don’t worry, God will not give you more than you are able for.
Trust and pray.
This is how we access the subconscious—by entering into prayer and worship.
I borrowed a prayer from Dr. Hew Len to help me heal the wound in me this time.
As I was working on these things, his prayer popped into my head. I had heard it from a girl I met when travelling.
I like it because it’s simple and Biblical.
The Light of the Holy Spirit can go in and bring up the memory.
Once you have the memory.. it’s time to get rid of it.
We don’t want it anymore.
By saying this prayer to God, yourself, the memory, and the person you wish to forgive it keeps the enemy out so we can forgive and let go.
We must let it go lovingly, even if the memory is dark and painful. As Dr. Len (psychologist) said, “We must love it to death.”
We keep praying this prayer while letting go, never holding onto anything. No attachments.
Letting go & moving on. Don’t overthink it, just let the Spirit lead you.
As you clean up all the toxic energy within you, God’s peace will return to you.
Below is the 4 sentence prayer:
I’m sorry
Please forgive me
I thank you
And I love you
This cleaning up makes us free and then the Spirt of love and truth will move us on and we will be able to let it go.
Repeat the four sentences above as many times as you need to, I’m sorry, please forgive me, I thank you, and I love you.
If you are familiar with inner child work, pray the prayer to your inner child too.
We need to heal our wounded inner child.
You are bringing up the emotions and memories into the light of God.
So moving upwards towards heaven, it goes out of you and into God’s light transmuting it into pure divine love.
Keep doing this until your peace is restored.
You will know when you have let go.
You will have a peace that surpasses all understanding.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Forgiveness sets us free!
We disobey God when we choose not to forgive.
When we forgive, we are walking in holiness which is our divine calling.
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”
I John 1:9, The Bible, NIV.
If you want to learn more about forgiveness, you might like these articles too…
Why We Need to Forgive Others: How to Let Go and Find Peace Again - Forgiveness is for you, not them
Forgiveness Will Set you Free from Anger, Bitterness, Malice, Hostility, Rage, and a Bad Attitude - Breaking out of bondage by the spirit of God
Forgiveness and Reconciliation: What to Do If Someone You Love Has Hurt You Deeply and Broken the Trust Between You? - Reconciliation is not mandatory for forgiveness to happen
I hope this helps you on your healing journey.
Love & blessings!
Órla